OK, I may be late to the game, but I finally saw the Sex and the City movie last night.

I am a huge fan of the series (the first DVD I ever bought was the first season of the show!), and always loved all of the different weddings that occured throughout the series.  The “perfect” weddings always reflected the relationships of those getting married so well – like Miranda and Steve’s sweet civil ceremony in a park (with no white in sight!), and Charlotte and Harry’s Jewish ceremony that just couldn’t go right (and Charlotte first wedding, the seemingly perfect wedding, which was just falling apart at the seams).

And the movie was not disappointing wedding wise at all.

[If you haven’t seen the movie, or don’t want to know more about the plot, please skip to the bottom!]

When Big and Carrie decide to get married, Carrie picks out a “no-label” vintage suit to wear to the small ceremony.  But soon, the wedding balloons out of control (as can be seen in the absolutely stunning and absolutely HUGE Viviene Westwood dress that Carrie is given), and soon the wedding doesn’t reflect who Carrie and Big are as a couple and as individuals – which is SO important in weddings.

Unfortunately, Big finds himself lost in the huge poof of a wedding Carrie has planned, and he ends up not being able to get out of his car on the day of.

In the end, Big and Carrie find their way back to each other (just like always).  Big, who isn’t a writer and seems to always have a problem expressing his feelings very well, sends Carrie a simple love letter: “I will love you forever.”  And the final scene of the movie has them being married in city hall, Carrie wearing her no-name simple suit, their ceremony simple and elegant.  With an “I do,” and a kiss, they’re officially husband and wife.

[OK, I guess if you’ve stuck around and are skimming towards the bottom, but trying to avoid the plot of the movie, you can start to read again.]

And Carrie, as the narrator, imparts this information on the audience at the end:  “Why is it we’re willing to write our own vows, but not our own rules?”

Create your own rules, especially when it comes to love.  When it comes to weddings, don’t be afraid to say “No,” or change what you don’t feel reflects who you are.  Don’t get lost in the poofy layers of the crinoline they talked you into getting when you bought your dress, and don’t be afraid to make your wedding say exactly who you are.