November 2008


Melanie and Brian were married this past weekend, in Southampton, New Jersey.

Melanie & Brian

They had a small bridal party (an honor attendant each, and a flower girl & ring bearer), and Melanie suggested a great order for the processional – the best man escorted the Mother of the Bride, followed by the groom, escorting his mother. The Maid of Honor entered, followed by the ring bearer, and the flower girl, scattering petals. The Bride and her father entered last. I thought it was a great way to make their mothers part of the processional, and I also am a fan of including the groom and groomsmen in the entrance, instead of having them at the front, with me, at the beginning – I think everyone should get a bit of a grand entrance on their wedding day!

Melanie & Brian

Brian and Melanie were both adamant that they knew, very early, that they were meant for each other, and I really tried to express this love and devotion they have for each other in their ceremony. They chose to write their own vows – Brian promising to love and support Melanie even on Mondays, after a long day of work, and Melanie expressing all of the times she looks to Brian for help – including when the kitty gets stuck in the closet with no key.

Melanie & Brian

As a closing, they lit a unity candle together – their mothers had lit the tapers when they entered, and they burned during the ceremony. A lovely way to close.

Melanie & Brian

It was a touching ceremony, that really reflected the unbelievable love that these two wonderful people have for each other.

Click here for more photos of their ceremony!

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Retta & Jack

Retta & Jack were married at the beautiful Prallsville Mills in Stockton, NJ.

Retta & Jack

Their ceremony had a reading from Rainer Maria Rilke, on the nature of marriage, as well as a handfasting.  It was a perfect fall day, and unseasonably warm for October – a wonderful day for a wedding.  They had a harpist perform the music for the ceremony – a beautiful, elegant touch.

Retta & Jack

The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.

Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

Retta & Jack

Retta & Jack

Retta and Jack, congratulations!

The Fall is my favorite season for a variety of reasons – I love the leaves, the chill in the air, being able to get pumpkin spice lattes everywhere, wearing sweaters… and, of course, autumnal weddings! I’ve had some wonderful ceremonies in the past few weeks, and will have write ups about them shortly!

I think that fall is a season of changes, and what better way to celebrate change then by GOING OUT AND VOTING TODAY.

And if you still need a reason to vote… you should go out and vote simply because you have the right to!

And in more equal rights for all voting news…

In California Cities, Same-Sex Couples Race to Beat Ballot [NYTimes] – Same sex couples rush to the altar, just in case Prop 8 passes.